|Posted by drasrul on June 15, 2010 at 12:09 AM||comments (1)|
Many people have actually misused the term "urut batin" for the sake of their own prostitution or social escort businesses. The word "social" in the example also had been wrongly used and is presently being used to legalise sex industry. Wherever we can find "urut batin" advertised,it'll be really hard to find the right ones. That's why God has created IQ's for all of us. And not to mention ESQ's as well. From my point of view, any genuine/original "urut batin" is adopted from the application of inner energy/chi/spiritual energy of a practitioner towards a patient in any sessions of massage/healing. In Malaysia, it is called by those words. In Singapore, someone said it is JuaGen. In Korea, who knows what they call it and etc. When there is chi present, healing/recovery process will occur, and as the result, one will get well, irrespective of any illnesses he/she is suffering from. Have you all heard of anyone that uses his ability in massage to even cure fractured bones of a person? I am very sure that a lot have but just hearing is not believing. We have to see proofs. I've seen them. Yes I did. For me, anything must be proven or else one just talks. Fracture massage is also part of the well known 'urut batin'. The inner energy massage technique has managed to evolve/diversify and found its way in treating various cases including premature ejaculation (PE) and erectile dysfunction (ED) for men. The massage version for women has been successful in the vaginal/bladder prolapse cases for women and actually it treats the "loose vagina" problems too. And it is also called the "urut batin".
|Posted by drasrul on February 15, 2010 at 9:18 AM||comments (0)|
A religion is based on faith (beliefs) and thought (mind). Faith is pointed to iman (percaya) in Malay or al iman) in Arabic. Thought is referred to akal in Malay or al aql in Arabic. Faith comes from one?s heart (as that you believe in), and also the spiritual side of anyone or ar ruh in Arabic. Thought originates from the intellectual part of one?s brain, and can also be called the mental aspect of someone. The path that the person is using will be different to other people?s method, but still for me, those paths are considered as ways to God aka religions. The final destination will still be the Unity, Oneness of the Truth (God). With the use of one?s spiritual, or mental sides or both spiritual and mental parts (the best option), he/she will eventually find his/her God, regardless of the shape of space and the flow of time.
Thinking?this might came from the General Theory Of Relativity that was taught to me a few years back, where matter and energy actually molded the above vectors, scientifically speaking, and if you may consider their relevancy at all. This may lead to various discoveries, written and made publicized to all of us including the infamous Big Bang Theory. As an example of what I have said in the earlier comment, it might came from al anbiya : 30 in quran. I use the ?might? word for not attempting to fanatically telling the whole universe that I am the only one with the most righteous version of knowing the fact. I will not tell people with maturity (or baligh in Arab, matang in Malay or puberty in simple English) to fully absorb all my words, without first thinking, reasoning and rationalizing it. I will however stop a child when he is playing with any hazardous objects, so that he/she will not be injured by his/her act. Therefore, it is still open for empirical experimentation, evaluation analysis and etc with the aid of mental as I mentioned earlier. Without mental, we might not have achieved as what we have today. Some will be amazed with the fact that, even without any advanced technological tools available at present, how could an illiterate man as prophet Muhammad mentioned the verse at about 1400 year ago if not due to the revelations of God? Albert Einstein was not even born yet and only produced the many theories in early 1900?s. Einstein may have found God with his mental but he could not explain His existence because God is off course above all likeness (tidak serupa segala sesuatu?). But somehow people said he has failed in his search for a deeper theory to subsume quantum mechanics and eliminate its possibilities and uncertainties, as usual commentators will be just commentators. We like to talk but not many would try to do what we talked about. And may be what he found was too Complex and Unexplainable with the use of his 5 senses, if not without the assistance of mental and spiritual, that would be explained as our 6th and 7th senses, namely. I would like to stress that, science is contained in a religion, that is based on beliefs and thinking.
In Einstein's thought thermodynamics played a special role in his early search for a unified foundation of physics. In simple medical explaination (to my understanding), when I think about thermo, I?ll think of heat. And dynamic has something to do with movement ie the movement of heat. Uncontrolled emotion (being emotional) will always causes a lot of trouble. Satans as mentioned in many religions also move in anyone?s blood vessels. No wonder why those who have problem with their anger and etc, will tend to suffer from stress, hypertension and etc. Last but not least, please do also consider the term emotional illness or stresses. The problem will always have to do with the flow of blood in the blood vessels, caused by our emotional. Not just that, social problems to any society in any community in the world are the definite outcome. May be this is what expressed by Yaasin : 60 regarding the act of satan towards the children of Adam, yes to us all indeed. So anyone, without the ability to manage his/her emotional problems, will not find peace in life with a religion and therefore will not find the Truth, even if h/she speaks a lot of Him. He/she will not be in the path to God unless he/she knows about it (thought) and what to do with it (faith). All the negatives sparks prone to evil are from satans that exist in our life. Satans? don?t just blame on them for all the negative happenings in the past, at present or in the future, but just look back at ourselves, do we still act like satans? Or are we the satans? Nevertheless, the Truth is achievable by everyone, since we are equal. Might be another resemblance of the Zeroth Law Of Thermodynamics in this case. Now we realize why the battle for equivalence, equality is constantly being fought throughout every corners of the world. Principle of equivalence, equality is from the sunatullah (please refer to my previous comments on this), from our true self concept that will always go to its tendency and Nature. When a person realizes (by spiritual achievement) that he has the same true self with another person in nature, then he will not annoy/harm/devalue/spoil/take advantage over the latter and thus we may have a better living environment to live in (present day or hereafter)ie without the present of anger, greed, lust, envy and etc. No more war, corruption, slavery, extremist, fanaticism and etc you can name them all. Then Love (God) will then spread to all of us. An analogy of those negative behaviors might be due to the existence of satans, who is in form of heat. Well this is open for discussion off course. Again, according to science, heat is introduced in the 2nd law Of Thermodynamics in terms of waste energy. On the other hand, if all humans follow sunatullah, or behave to their own true nature, certainly they will all be leaded to God. Why? Because in a perfect process/system/life, there is no present of heat at all. Imagine life without all those deadly sins as mentioned over and over in many religions. So this is 1st Law Of Thermodynamics? Think more on cosmology, natural science, philosophy and etc because those are from the word of God, in a religion. ?
Next, I will mention more on spirituality (how is it connected to God?) and I will try to allocate ample time to give my feedback to other comments later, if God wills. ?
|Posted by drasrul on February 13, 2010 at 3:41 AM||comments (0)|
1. Ilmu Urut Batin & Badan
2. Ilmu Pelarisan Diri & Bisnes
3. Ilmu Benteng Diri & Kebal
4. Ilmu Penyembuhan
5. Ilmu Diri Sejati
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Suatu Kupasan Dari Segi Tahap
Tahap 1 adalah berdasarkan kesemua kaedah pembelajaran ilmu berdasarkan 5 pancaindera utama yang anggotanya adalah telinga, lidah, mata, hidung & tangan. Apabila kita membaca atau mewirid sesuatu, maka saat itu medium kita adalah telinga dan lidah. Jika kita melihat sesuatu maka disaat itu medium kita adalah mata. Bernafas semestinya tidak asing lagi namun penekanan diberikan mengikut kaedah tertentu yang bersesuaian. Seterusnya jari, tangan bahkan tubuh yang bergerak kita jadikan asas dalam pembelajaran keilmuan di Qalbun Asrar. Tentunya target kita adalah hati, kalbu yang selalu dirujuk sebagai kayu ukur baik atau buruknya seseorang itu. Apabila kita merujuk kesemua ini dan kita menyelidik, menganalisa, mempertimbangkan lalu dipanggil sebagai otak(fikiran), akal(ilmu). Kenapa otak(fikiran),akal(ilmu)? Apa yang membenarkan kata-kata ini? Sandarannya apa? Kenapa hati, kalbu? Apa rahsianya? Bagaimana pandangan dari sudut dan kupasan agama, bahkan semua yang bernama agama didalam dunia ini? Kerana mungkin otak(fikiran), akal(ilmu), hati, kalbu yang bersih itulah yang Kekal dan mempunyai tugas untuk kembali kepada Allah. Semua yang akan disampaikan adalah hasil perjalanan dari Tutor sendiri dibawah landasan akal dan kalbu. Akal itu yang memikirkan manakala hati itu yang percaya. Percaya itu bagaimana? Adakah sekadar kata-kata yang dihafal dan dituturkan sebaiknya mengikut lunas bahasa atau bagaimana? Mungkinkah kita perlukan pembuktian didalam level percaya? Dalam setiap bidang ilmu yang dipelajari, anda akan didedahkan dengan kesemua sillabus yang ada menurut kaedah 5 anggota tadi. Marilah semua tidak kira umur, jantina, bangsa & agama, kita keluarkan diri kita dari kejahilan atau juga jahiliah kepada Selamat, Damai, Sejahtera, Sempurna, Kebenaran Abadi & Pencerahan Sejati.
Tahap 2 adalah berdasarkan hafiz (penjaga) yang sentiasa menjaga, sentiada disamping, berdekatan dan hampir kepada setiap individu. Tapi siapakah hafiz itu yang rata-rata diseluruh dunia mengistilahkannya dengan nama khodam. Bila sebut khodam sahaja, maka akan muncullah nama jin, malaikat, ruh manusia dan sebagainya namun apakah realiti sebenar mereka itu? Apakah ini benar disisi kepercayaan agama? Banyak lagi kupasan akan didedahkan bagi menggunakan 2 pancaindera lain iaitu Akal dan Kalbu itu. Ditahap ini anda akan harus membuktikan sendiri hafiz atau yang ramai menamakan khodam itu disamping memanfaatkan kaedah yang diterapkan untuk tujuan-tujuan positif terutama kepada peningkatan, pencerahan, pemurnian, diri dan orang lain. Kami disini sebagai pembimbing atau penuntun jalan yang harus diketahui dan ditempuh. Dengan niat yang ikhlas, sabar, benar, insyaAllah akan dibukakan jalan yang lurus.
Tahap Master adalah seumpama apa? Apakah kupasan Jasad (Al Jasad), Jiwa (An Nafs), Ruh (Ar Ruh) & Akal (Al Aql) itu didalam agama? Apa kaitannya dengan Fizikal, Emosi, Spiritual & Mental kita ini? Apa kaitannya dengan unsur alam kecil dan besar ini iaitu Tanah, Api, Air & Angin itu? Apakah dikemuncaknya Tiada lagi akal, Tiada lagi ilmu, Tiada lagi kalbu, Tiada lagi hafiz, Tiada lagi kekeliruan, Tiada lagi kebimbangan, Tiada lagi segala-galanya etc, dengan sentiada berkekalan lagi dijalan yang lurus tadi hinggalah sampai ke destinasi iaitu Selamat, Damai, Sejahtera, Sempurna, Kebenaran Abadi & Pencerahan Sejati. Teori tentunya tidak lengkap tanpa pembuktian.
|Posted by drasrul on February 13, 2010 at 2:52 AM||comments (0)|
What Is Body & Soul ?
Haqiqatul Insan. From my point of view, we just need to refer to the holy Quran. In general view we have only Body and Soul, and just that as many would understand? Yes certainly more than that. In the Al Furqaan, it mentions about our Physical(al Jasad), Spiritual (Ar Ruh), Emotional (An Nafs) and Mental (Al Aql).
Our physical is our visible body, fairly straightforward. It is mentioned in 4 different creations in the Al Kitab. First the creation of Adam, the creation of Eve, the creation of Jesus and lastly our creation(with father and mother) I will give the ayah & surah later. The point is why are those creations being different to each other? What is the hikmah? Afala takkilun...Do we use our thought?...
To understand our spiritual which is actually our Ar Ruh, well we need to explore a little bit. It is created form light, which has the same form of Malach. In order to understand this, please learn more about Malach. There are certain verses that refers to this term (Ar Ruh). In as Syu'ara 192-193, it refers to Ar Ruh Al Amin...or Gabriel. But in An Nahl 102, it refers to Ruhul Qudus or Ar Ruh form Allah. Also mentioned in Al Baqarah 87 and Al Mujaadilah 22 as Ar Ruh from Allah. This is our spiritual, and why human is the best creation by Allah. Because it has His secret that remain within.
The to the term emotional which is An Nafs. It refers to soul that is prone to evil, bad habits, bad behaviour. In Al Hadith also there is a story about An Nafs that refers to the condition of soul that is prone to evil also. In Yusuf 53, the Al Dzikr mentions about evil soul. Also in Shaad 26 it mentions about the lusts of the heart, do not follow because it will mislead from the path of Allah.
So, we all have souls that with them we can be as evil as satans or animals OR we can become as Malach OR EVEN BETTER than that. As stated in Al fajr 27-28, o soul in complete rest and satisfaction, come back to the Lord,- well pleased, and well-pleasing unto Him. Okay, this is the level or quality of An Nafs that has become Ar Ruh, that is very close to Allah. Also mentioned in Al Qiyamah 2.
About our Mental, I will include that later.
We definitely have to study and then better understand ourselves as human beings in the world (universe). World or universe can also have certain meanings in the Truth (haqiqah).
|Posted by drasrul on February 13, 2010 at 2:49 AM||comments (0)|
Science And Religion
I believe that there were, are and always will be many understandings to a certain word in any reference that has both the direct and indirect meanings.
Even the word 'earth' will give result in various forms. Definitely, what differentiates A and B and C and etc is the comprehension. One could read but with no acceptance to it. Other would read and came out with a deep level of awareness. He would say 'yes, the earth is the planet we live in now'. Some could read but with a deeper knowledge in it. She might say 'my body is my universe, so I see it this way'. Another will say 'oh certainly we have micro cosmos and macro cosmos that refer to the small and huge world respectively'. Those versions are all correct to their definite level of understandings but all the confusions or 'dark age' that we can see in the past or present have derived from the people who think that they are the only one who possess or achieve the correct version of beliefs. The wise ones will always be opened in heart while still thinking, analyzing in order to fully grasp the Ultimate knowledge. We have our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual but are those related that to the terms such as jasad (al jasad), jiwa (an nafs), akal (al aql) and ruh (ar ruh) in quran?, if specifically speaking. Religion is about faith (to believe) and thought(to think). One can simply think or one can just believe or the best is one can think and believe, and certainly that I the path I am referring to. In those days or even present, people were/are made restricted to just read the quran as a form of recital or ritual only without having the intention to explore more that will of course made/make them limited. So then we have limited ourselves. It might be that the term 'quran' will have various definition of understandings as well.
I believe because in quran (if talking specifically) there are many sentences that refer to both science and arts, and are mentioned in about 1/6 on it. The prophet Muhammad is also a scientist if we want to call it that way. Physics, biology or mathematics are in form of science and thus is from the revelation of God. Sometimes we can hear people talk about all Mother nature, act of God or even the sunah Allah, with views of their owns. All happenings in the 'universe', no matter how small or huge it is, are the sign of His powers with accordance to His regulations that has been set. This is the meaning of the above terms. For instance, quantum physics is all in the quran actually and this can be discuss further later I hope. So, that is why we cannot keep it aside. Being religious does not mean that we have to leave science behind, because science is in the religion, itself. I believe that in a religion that is based on belief and thought, we must not limit ourselves. If we do so, this will lead to critical thinking and with the use of thought and belief, one is on his/her way to Oneness. And referring to my earlier paragraph of what actually forms a human, all the terms are eventually lead to a concept of Unity. That is religion.
|Posted by drasrul on December 7, 2009 at 5:15 AM||comments (1)|
This article is adopted from a source, whom is also a friend of mine, telling a version of his understanding of the art. For quite some time he has been practicing this massage technique, but restricted to his wife only, before making it published for the whole world to observe. Well,for me, there is a part of the massage method that I am not agree with, and in some culture it might become a taboo if even talking about anus massage only.Get what I mean? Nevertheless I at the end, have put all the materials here,unedited, showing its genuinity for the public to comprehend the uniqueness of the massage.
My wife and I have practiced Tantra/Sacred Sex for several years and have received much joy from the techniques and processes.One of my wife's favorite and frequently requested sexual activity is the Yoni Massage. It has greatly expanded our sex life, brought us closer and has given me a greater appreciation of women. We've taught the technique to many of our friends and they too have enjoyed good results from it. I offer it here and hope it enhances your sex life. Enjoy.
Yoni (pronounced YO-NEE) is a Sanskrit word for the vagina that is loosely translated as "Sacred Space" or"Sacred Temple." Its meaning and use is an alternate perspective from the Western view of the female genitals. In Tantra, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect. This is especially helpful for men to learn.
The purpose of the Yoni Massage is to create a space for the woman (the receiver) to relax, and enter a state of high arousal and experience much pleasure from her Yoni. Her partner (the giver) experiences the joy of being of service and witnessing a special moment.
The goal of the Yoni massage is not orgasm.Orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is simply to pleasure and massage the Yoni/vagina. From this perspective both receiver and giver can relax, and not have to worry about achieving something. When orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying.Orgasm is allowed to happen or not happen. It is also helpful for the giver to not expect anything in return. Just allow the receiver to enjoy the massage and to relax into herself after wards. Of course, other sexual activity may follow but it should be entirely the receiver's choice. This perspective will build greater intimacy and trust, and will greatly expand your sexual horizons.
Bathing is always helpful as it relaxes both the receiver and giver. A quiet space is desirable with pleasing music, candles,pillows, etc., or whatever makes the participants relax and feel safe. Allow yourself enough time and do not hurry through the process. Go to the bathroom before beginning the massage. The best results will occur when the bowels and bladder are empty and you will avoid the unnecessary experience of interrupting the massage to go to the bathroom. Connect with your partner by hugging,holding, eye gazing (looking into each other's eyes for an extended time), or whatever brings you to a place of safety and relaxation.
Have the receiver lie on her back with pillows under her head so she can look down at her genitals and up at her partner(giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under her hips. Her legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and her genitals clearly exposed for the massage. The giver sits cross-legged between the receivers' legs. The giver may wish to sit on a pillow or cushion. This position allows full access to the Yoni and other parts of the body. Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver and receiver should remember to keep breathing deeply,slowly and with relaxation during the entire process. The giver will gently remind the receiver to start breathing again if the receiver stops or takes shallower breaths. Deep breathing, not hyper ventilating, is very important here.
Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs,breasts, etc., to get the receiver to relax and for the giver to prepare for touching the Yoni. Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil or lubricant on the mound of the Yoni. Pour just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni.
Begin gently massaging the mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend some time here and do not rush. Relax and enjoy giving the massage. Gently squeeze the outer lip between the thumb and index finger, and slide up and down the entire length of each lip. Do the same thing to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina. Take your time.
The receiver can massage her own breasts or may just relax and continue breathing deeply. It is helpful for giver and receiver to look into each other's eyes as much as possible. The receiver can tell the giver if the pressure, speed, depth, etc., needs to be increased or decreased.Limit your speaking and focus on the pleasurable sensations. (It is my experience that too much talking gets one out of their feelings and diminishes the effects.)
Gently stroke the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles. Gently squeeze it between thumb and index fingers.Do this as a massage and not to get the receiver off. The receiver will undoubtedly become very aroused but continue to encourage her to just relax and breathe.
Slowly and with great care, insert the middle finger of your right hand into the Yoni (there is a reason for using the right hand as opposed to the left. It has to do with polarity in Tantra). Very gently explore and massage the inside of the Yoni/ vagina with this finger. Take your time, begentle, and feel up, down and sideways. Vary the depth, speed and pressure. Remember, this is a massage and you're nurturing and relaxing the Yoni. Withyour palm facing up, and the middle finger inside the Yoni, move the middlefinger in a "come here" gesture or crook back towards the palm. You will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone, behind the clitoris. This is the G-spot or in Tantra, the sacred spot (there are many excellent books that go into detail about this area). Your partner may feel as if they have to urinate or it may be painful or pleasurable.
Again vary the pressure, speed and pattern of movement. You can move side to side, back and forth, or in circles with your middle finger. You can also insert the finger that's between your middle finger and pinky. Check with your partner first before sticking two fingers into them. Most women should have no problem and will enjoy the increased stimulation from two fingers. Take your time and be very gentle. You may use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as well. An option to try if the receiver wants it is to insert the pinky of the right hand into her anus. Ask her first and do not insert your pinky into her Yoni/vagina after it has been in her anus. Use lubrication and be very gentle. (In Tantra, it is said that when your pinky is in her anus, the next finger and middle finger in her Yoni/vagina, and your thumb on her clitoris,"You are holding one of the mysteries of the universe in your hand.")So, what is your left hand doing all this time? You can use it to massage the breasts, abdomen, or clitoris. If you massage the clitoris it's usually best touse your thumb in an up down motion, with the rest of your hand resting on and massaging the mound. The dual stimulation of right and left hands will provide much pleasure for the receiver. I do not recommend using your left hand to touch your own genitals because it may take your focus off the receiver. Remember, this massage is for her pleasure and much of the benefit comes from not only the physical stimulation but the intent as well. Continue massaging,trying different speeds, pressures and motions. Keep breathing and looking into each other's eyes. She may have powerful emotions come up and may cry. Just keep breathing and be gentle.
If she has an orgasm, keep her breathing, and continue massaging if she wants. More orgasms may occur, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is called "riding the wave." Many women can learn how to be multi-orgasmic with the Yoni Massage and a very patient partner.
Keep massaging until she tells you to stop. Very slowly, gently, and with respect, remove your hands. Allow her to just lay there and enjoy the after glow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very soothing as well. As you learn to master the Yoni Massage your sex life will be greatly enriched and you will learn a great deal about feminine sexuality.
There is a similar massage for men called the Lingam Massage. Lingam is a Sanskrit word for the penis that means, "Wand of Light."
|Posted by drasrul on July 9, 2009 at 6:00 AM||comments (0)|
Urut Batin : Tips To Last Longer In Bed
Many men know that trying to last longer while having sex can be difficult.It is and frustrating also especially when man climaxes before pleasing his woman. So, here I will share with you some tips on how to last longer while having sex.
Are you sick of the embarrassment of orgasming way too early during sex?
Are you worried that your partner may leave you for someone else who can satisfy her needs?
Do you afraid that your partner will cheat on you, due to your inability to last long enough to give her an orgasm?
Well you are not alone, a recent online poll found over 70% of males would like to last longer in bed. In this article we'll be addressing the topic of how to last longer in bed, and we'll look at a few techniques that you can useto boost your staying power instantly.
Ending premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed is vital if you are to become a better lover and one who is able to satisfy his partner sexually. It takes on average about 20 minutes for most women to achieve an orgasm through intercourse alone. Also even without the problem of premature ejaculation, most men will climax after only a good five minutes of sex.
Howcan you fill this obvious gap?
What can be done to have longer lasting sex andend the problem of premature ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is the cause of many marriage and relationship breakdown's as unsatisfied sexual partners may look elsewhere to seek a more fulfilling sex life.
One reason why men might not be able to last longer in bed is the age. It is known that young males in their late teens and early twenties tend to get over excited when it comes to sex. It is understandable that this happens, since at a young age not much thought goes into the actual act of having sex. Instead a young male may solely be thinking of his own ego and in order to satisfy it only feels the need to bed as many girls as possible in the shortest space of time. If that has been the case then a habit of ejaculating quickly may have been formed early on.
An old man could be in this embarrassing position if he weren't in a relationship for an extended period and so turned to masturbation to relieve his sexual urges. This situation creates the habit to ejaculate without thinking about satisfying a partner, so the sole aim may have been to ejaculate as soon as he possibly could in order to avoid expending too much time and energy.
First of all, you need to realize why you have troubles with erections. One hand is that your testosterone levels begin to decrease. Testosterone is a hormone that influences sexual and athletic performance. It begin to decrease,mainly after the age of 30.
On the other hand, the reason could be the fact your blood circulation isn't what it used to be. Erections are caused by blood flow pooling in the penis, solack of blood pressure and circulation directly affects the strength and size of your erection.
May be you're the one having problems keeping a solid erection during intercourse. It is bad, but not the worst thing in the world. First of all you shouldn't feel ashamed. Statistics show that half of all men aged 40-70 years experience some form of sexual problem.
It is a fact that an effective massage treatment can remove blood stasis or other blockage in any parts of a body. When done accordingly by a specialist, it will furthermore increase the blood circulation , allowing the maximum possible blood flow to the penis.
But it will come to certain circumstances that you will not be able to control the heightening sensitivity and the maximum pleasure that leads to a premature ejaculation. Some people would just masturbate and ejaculate before having an intercourse, hoping for a longer intimate session that will follow afterwards. But they don't realize that they'll just wasting their energy and have been doing it all wrong from the beginning! To practise jelqing, manhood massage and any other similar exercises will actually help to lower the heightening sensations and all those sexual arousals before having an intercouse. Try this and you will know!
One of the keys to lasting longer in bed is to control your breathing to a relaxed manner. Breathing and ejaculation are linked. When you are having sex with your partner your breathing starts off slow, as you and your partner get more aroused you'll notice that your breathing starts to speed up, the more aroused you get the the more your breathing speeds up until you reach a climax and ejaculate.
Nothing more, nothing less, just a 15 minute a day training. Relax and increase your body awareness There are very many techniques out there to help you relaxand be more able to 'feel' your body. As an alternative healing practitioner I have experience with very many powerful relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques. Perhaps the simplest one is just paying attention to your breathing during sex.
b)Increase awareness of your sexual arousal.
Again, open your awareness to your feelings of pleasure and pay close attention to your arousal levels. Awareness is the first step to understanding which is itself a step towards mastery .Focus on your pleasure during sex,during exercise or even the subtle pleasure you experience when a gorgeous woman gets on the commuter/bus.
There are many techniques you can learn to extend your pleasure. As youbecome more aware of your sexual arousal a natural increase in your arousal level is inevitable. This will happen because you will become familiar and comfortable with your pleasure, and your body will propel you to greater heights naturally.
?As your sexual pleasure naturally increases with more practice, you will begin to 'play' with it. Manipulate your breathing patterns, sexual energy field and subtle internal sensations, to the point that you can begin to feel mastery over them. Again, ancient wisdom, sex manuals and other people's experiences are full of eye opening possibilities.
Learn the erotic tantric massage and apply it to your partner.
c) Stop thinking
Drop your conscious mind out of the picture. Investigate or experiment withtechniques to get your internal dialogue to shut up. Experience all of thisintense and joyous pleasure, not in your head, not by thinking about it ... but in your body. Feel it! The key is connecting more deeply to your own sensations and feelings.
d)The PC muscle and Kegel
In the middle of your stream of urine, stop and start the stream several times. PC muscles are the muscles you just used. Note, that at first you may also squeeze your anal muscles. As you become experienced, try to separate out different muscle groups that you are able to exercise by squeezing
Kegel workouts can provide men with stronger erections.Thereare said to be significant benefits for the problem of premature ejaculation from having more muscular control of the pelvis.. It is also possible that strengthening the pelvic floor may allow some men to achieve a form of orgasm without allowing ejaculation, and thereby perhaps reach multiple"climaxes" during sexual activity..In men, this exercise lifts up the testicles, also strengthening the cremaster muscle, as well as the analsphincter, as the anus is the main area contracted when a Kegel is done. Thisis because the pubococcygeus muscle begins around the anus and runs up to the urinary sphincter.
f) Thrust and press whenever necessary
To excite her, you can press the end of your penis against the head of her clitoris. This excites her but has the advantage that as you aren't thrusting,you are going to last longer. Let her use your penis to tap her genitals, and many women like this as a part of foreplay. When you do penetrate her, let your penis rest in the entrance to her vagina rather than thrusting it in straight away.
Her most sensitive parts are in the entrance to her vagina, and if you enjoy shallow thrusts rather than deep ones, you will not only last longer when you are making love in bed, but you will get greater pleasure yourself when you finally do orgasm - a longer build up to orgasm always feels better during sex.
When you first feel the heightened sensitivity and energy in your penis that you know you'll soon explode, don't panic! Too many men are pushed over the edge,right to ejaculation, because they mentally begin to panic when they feel they're close to orgasm. Panic phrases rush through their heads, like: "Uhoh, I'm gonna blow!" and "Not again, this is going to be embarrassing." Instead of letting these counter-productive thoughts fill your mind and quicken the onset of orgasm, instead calmly say in your head:"Okay, I'm close to ejaculating.
The most sensitive part of your penis is the top of the shaft and especially the head. To decrease its stimulation (without stopping the 'action') slowly and deeply thrust into your partner, as far as you can go and she can pleasurably take.
Then, gently grind your hips, wiggling your pubic bone (the hard area above your penis, about 8 inches down from your belly button) on her vagina. To her,this seems and feels like a wonderful stroke variation, which gives herexternal clitoral stimulation (the number one way to make any woman orgasm).
However, behind the scenes, it's momentarily decreasing your stimulation,enabling you to last longer. This happens because when you plunge deep intoher, your penis enters a wider area of her vagina, which lessens its contact and stimulation.
Then, to cap it off, you grind and wiggle, instead of thrusting in and out,which further decreases the intense sensations of sex. After 30 seconds or so,your arousal levels will have dropped enough for you to restart your thrusting.
By using this technique, you're able to control your urge to pop withoutstopping sex and while giving your partner extra sexual stimulation.
Having said that, lasting longer isn't just about finding new ways to enjoy sex, or new positions that help you last longer - it's also about you having the right mental attitude, a positive approach to premature ejaculation, inwhich you are optimistic about the likelihood of you being able to control your ejaculation.
Make foreplay into a sexual encounter that teases and promises of the delights to come: the longer you extend the initial phases of the sexual encounter,the more rewarding the later stages of thrusting and ejaculation will be.Indeed, it's at this stage of sex that you might like to consider giving your partner an orgasm - see the advice above if you want to know why this helps inthe matter of lasting longer.
When you have fun in bed, and when you make sex last longer by extending foreplay, there's also the benefit of increased intimacy between you. Just relax and focus on what you are doing together - not on the sex part, because that may well increase your nervousness and cause you to develop anxiety whichwill only make you come quicker.
It is a known fact that certain sexual positions will you help last longerthan others during intercourse. Positions where your partner is on top will begive way less stimulation to the penis and therefore sex should last a little longer than in positions like the doggie style for example.
Some sexual positions are better to make her climax than others. The biggest trick is figuring out the best position for your girl, because every woman's body is different. There are women who can only climax with clitoral stimulation and others who can wildly orgasm from penetration alone. The following 8 sexual positions seem to work for the majority of women. Please try them all and pick your favorite!
The missionary position works for many women because it allows for deeppenetration. For additional stimulation, use your fingers on her clitoris whileyou thrust in and out.
ii)Missionary With A Twist
If you want to spice up the missionary sex position, lift her legs up ontoyour shoulders while you penetrate her vagina. This opens her up for evendeeper penetration and makes stimulation of her g-spot easier.
iii)This is your mission?
Perhaps it is not the most explosive of sexual positions and, hey, it may not even merit the "Best Position in the Bedroom"award. This position, nonetheless, is most helpful for men who want to prolongcoitus.
?Speaking of coitus, you can try practicing coitus interruptus, which entailsdeliberately withdrawing your slimy guy from her vagina prior to ejaculation andholding it. Soon afterward, you may insert your little guy back in and continue on your merry way.
Remember that the instant she lifts her legs in the air or you lift your ownbody, you may end up feeling more intense sensations. We, therefore, recommend that you begin with body-to-body missionary and slowly work your way up withvariety.
Although some guys lose control, considering they don't haveany power when the woman on top does all the maneuvering, many men find a woman's back-and-forth thrusting (rather than up and down) very comfortable.
Allowing her to take control of the situation can help you concentrate onkeeping your orgasm at bay. As well, you get to watch your sweetheart bouncearound while she does her thing.
?Once the thrusting thing becomes child's play for you, you can try letting her squat. But be warned: The squatting position is likely to make you lose yourmind (and your semen) a lot faster. That's because her vagina tends to hug yourpenis rather tightly, and your genitals and hers are the only two body parts that are touching.
This sexual position allows for maximum penetration and very easy access to her clitoris. All you have to do is reach around her while you penetrate, and thereit is. Doggy style also gives the woman the ability to control the speed of thrusting, pushing back or pulling forward as her orgasm gets closer.
vi)Girl On Top
Many women like to be on top because this gives them room to move their bodyaround until they find the sweet spot. This sexual position also gives easy access to the clitoris for easy stimulation and wild orgasms to follow.
vii)Face to Face
Another great position that'll help most men last longer inthe sack is the "sitting inside each other" position. You sit with your legs crossed and she sits atop you doing the same and controlling the tempo.
The great thing about this position is that you get to rub her back or pull herby the shoulders and suck on her breasts with ease. As well, she can bite into your neck or rub your back while you both enjoy a constant sexual pace.
When you become accustomed to this situation and learn adequate penis control,then you can give her some new instructions and get her to squat up and down onyour member while she puts her hands on your knees for balance.
This position should usually be reserved for morning sex.With her back facing you, lift up one of her legs and insert yourself inside her warm fleshy area.
Although the initial feeling may be that of tightness, if you brace yourself,the feeling will become more comforting. Many guys are able to control themselves and last longer in this position.
You can easily and quickly re-train your body and re-condition your mind toejaculate only when you are ready to do so. You can be able to go as long asyou or your partner would like and as hard as you want in any position you choose.
Sex is about giving and getting satisfaction. Being able to last a little longer by just laying there just won't do. There are much better ways of ending premature ejaculation and having longer lasting more satisfying sex.
One of the finest anti-premature ejaculation strategies is to ensure she has an orgasm first. Since women do not "come down" from their orgasm as fast as men, she will still be interested in more sexual activity with youafter she has come, so you can ensure sex lasts longer, that your lovemaking continues for longer, and that you are a longer, better lover in bed!
If you have already ejaculated, you're bound to last longer next time - andyes, you have to stay awake rather than drop off to sleep. When you've come,kiss and cuddle until she and you are aroused again, then make love for a second time. True, you may find the sensation of making love to your partner when you have already ejaculated in her vagina very arousing and exciting: even so, hopefully the fact that you are going for a second orgasm will mean you last longer during sex.
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Female G-Spot : A Review
1.The question : Does female G-pot really exist?
There are those who insist it does, yet several researchers insist there is no evidence that it's even real. Nevertheless, g-spot amplification surgery is available for women who want to enhance sexual pleasure, lending credibility to its existence.
Regardless, there is a popular held belief that massaging the g-spot can be accomplished once you know where to look. What is been popularly but erroneously called the G Spot is the area on the upper wall of the vagina through which the urethral or Skenes glands (prostate) can be felt. The search for a spot on the upper wall of the vagina, as opposed to searching for the prostate or urethral glands through the upper wall may be contributing to the difficulty of finding a single G spot and the controversy as to whether it exists at all.
Originally, it was thought that women only had clitoral orgasms. Now we are finding that one can experience an orgasm in just about any area of the body. The G-area orgasm is best described as a vaginal orgasm, which means it is generated and experienced mostly within the vaginal area. However, with practice and patience, the orgasms generated from this area can expand to include the whole body. Lovers playing with the G-area regularly have also expanded the woman's orgiastic response from the average of 10-15 seconds to minutes and even hours!
2. I am not kidding, but these are the facts!
The important things to know about the G-spot are:
3. If it really exists, then where should you point to?
The G spot. Here you'll learn what it is, where it is, and what to do with it. The technique takes only minutes to learn but you may need a few tries for it to work. The G spot is a zone about two or three inches inside the vagina on the front wall, closest to the clitoris or pubic bone. With the right technique and a bit of practice it can yield lots and lots of pleasure for women including orgasm, multiple orgasms and female ejaculation. In the diagram below, it shows you where exactly G spot is:
4.Here are the preparations for the whole session. Please bear this in your mind.
5.The sensations of 'pee feeling' should be put away
. This is the final piece of the G-spot orgasm puzzle, and also unlocks female ejaculation. As pleasure builds during G-spot massage, a woman will feel the sensation of needing to pee. The key to both G-spot orgasm and female ejaculation is to just let this feeling go. What's happening is the build up to female ejaculation or squirting. This is a clear odourless liquid that squirts out of the urethra during G-spot massage. The liquid comes from glands that surround the urethra known as Skene's glands. These glands become engorged during and block the flow of urine from your bladder.
6. Don?t forget these guys! Listed below are the things you shouldn?t do:
7. Things to ponder
Therefore, whether you are with a woman who has never experienced this type of stimulation, or with someone who has, it is important to remember that if you choose to stimulate this area, you never know what type of response you may experience. She may jump into sexual ecstasy, she may feel nothing, or it might even be uncomfortable, even painful for her. Persistence on the part of both lovers will pay off in earthshaking dividends and profoundly, deeper intimacy, that we all crave, if they understand how to approach and surf the experience, whatever the response.
Now, in approaching the G-area, it is important to be aware of the special nature of this area. It has been realized in our bodies, that our cellular/muscular/organ structure also holds memory of past traumas, if they have not been properly and completely released. Have you ever heard of sexual healing? The G-area provides one of the most efficient and easiest ways to get there! The G-area is notably a place where a lot of emotions may be stored. Just as regular prostate massage is recommended for men to avoid prostate problems, it is actually a good idea for a woman's sexual and emotional health to make time for special, health massage/healing G-area sessions on an ongoing basis, outside of the lovemaking arena. Then she can feel total permission to explore and release any tensions and traumas she may be holding there. When stimulating the G-area during regular lovemaking, it is advisable to be prepared to switch to healing mode, if she moves into deep emotion.
It is also wise to integrate many of these techniques into your everyday play, as appropriate, such as asking permission, watching to make sure that there is always plenty of lubrication, staying focused and attentive to your lover, and taking the time to "wake her up" before you plunge into more intense stimulation. With newbies, sometimes the beginning takes a little time and perseverance, but with patience, the rewards are gaining greater emotional and physical health, greater intimacy, and bigger and better orgasms! I wish you joyous adventures discovering the paradise on earth!
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An Introduction To Erotic Massage
In the world of Tantra, atmosphere is everything. The Tantrists, for example, teach that your internal state is inextricably linked to your physical surroundings. That said, if your environment is pure and clean, you'll feel pure and clean. If your environment is in shambles, well? The best way to approach readying your environment and setting the mood is to appeal to your senses. Use visual elements, along with those that appeal to your senses of smell, sound, taste, and most importantly, touch. Get your designated space with soft linens and pillows. Hang drapes to cover cold, dull wall surfaces. Light some of your favorite incense and put on some soothing and relaxing music. All of these tactics will help you and your lover relax and get into the mood.
Erotic and Sensual Massage involves:
The Benefits of Erotic and Sensual Massage
In later article, we will help you discover the methods for preparing the perfect erotic massage experience. Now you'll have all your bases covered so you and your lover can get down to business and focus on fulfilling your desires.
In Tantra a woman's genital area is referred to as the 'Yoni' or sacred place. To begin female genital massage we need to relax, slow down and admire and rever every inch of her - not to mention between the legs!
Female Erotic and Sensual Massage Involves the following areas:
We live in a stressful world and it seems to be only getting more and more stressful. As a result, we are all looking for ways to help calm things down and make ourselves feel better as a result. There are many ways to do this, from simply relaxing on the couch or spending time with someone we love. However, there is a new way that is coming along in the West that is changing how women relax and it comes in the form of an erotic massage. This female genital intimate massage is helping more and more women discover the art of sensual massage, to love and honor all aspects of themselves and to learn to relax in their lives. Tantra massage is something that more and more women are disovering as a way to not only relax, but to find the joys and highs of being intimate with someone they love and trust through an erotic massage.
Erotic Male Massage Involves the following areas:
Ancient techniques detail the process to male genital massage - through different massage strokes, pressure points - some of which help in ejaculatory control (a method which allows a man to control his orgasm untill the point where maximum arousal and relaxation has been achieved i,e, when he has experienced enough pleasure!) In the tantric vocabulary, the male organ is referred to as the lingham, or wand of light. It is seen as pure consciousness or awarenss - whose essence is drawn to the sacredness of the Yoni. Through Tantric massage or male erotic massage, you can discover the benefits of being with a partner you love, who understands the fundamentals of male genital massage.
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Tantric sexuality practices have been around for many centuries and are still today helping people all over the world to resolve their difficulties and problems in the bedroom. The fact is that there is no better way to develop or redevelop the trust and intimacy that is necessary to maximize your enjoyment of lovemaking than by exploring the Tantric arts.
Yes, there are those Kama Sutra lovemaking positions that everyone always thinks of first, but there is so much more to Tantra. Let's examine how applying the Tantric philosophies to your life can upgrade your level of sexual activity, elongation, enjoyment and most importantly, comfort. You see,
Tantra is all about connecting your thoughts with your body and with the body of your sexual partner. When people endeavor to learn and practice the Tantric arts, they are opening their minds up to the possibilities of adventure and freedom. They are becoming as one with the energies of the universe itself. As a matter of fact, that's exactly what the word Tantra means. The root word "tan", when translated from Sanskrit, means "to weave" or "to mesh together with". Tantric practitioners are discovering how to live with their hearts open to love.
They learn how to focus on the optimization of pleasure - not just sexual pleasure, but pleasures from any and all sources. You must realize that Tantra is more than just a great approach to fantastic sex; it is an age-old method of meditation and holistic health principals. Lovemaking is but one vehicle (a very nice vehicle) to bring about the profound benefits that Tantra aspires towards. Being a system for the holistic development of the individual, Tantra encourages a multi-faceted approach to recognizing a better life in general. Now, when people are experiencing sexual problems, they are normally the result of imbalances in other parts of life. If you are experiencing low libido activity, then you are probably stressed out about certain areas of your life other than sex. With Tantra, you are encouraged to relax and accept the gifts of love and pleasure from your partner. Nothing is expected of you except to thoroughly enjoy yourself - to open up mentally, spiritually and sexually.
Tantric massage is specifically designed to address the concept of controlling your orgasmic responses. Slow time is taken with each member of a given union and ejaculation is able to be controlled. If you suffer from premature ejaculation, Tantric massage (Lingam massage specifically) can lead you to mastery over your orgasmic responses to stimulation. Your orgasms are enhanced; intensified. They last longer when you allow them to happen and blow your mind because your mind is exactly what is in control. Tantric practitioners experience total body orgasms. They are able to focus their minds, hearts and genitalia into the sex act simultaneously.
Tantra is an art form for developing your cosmic connection to everything and everyone in the universe. You are able to become as one with all of the energy and matter around you. You realize that you are an integral component of life and as such, you are allowed to relax and enjoy your life, your time and your sexuality. Tantric sexuality is able to solve your bedroom difficulties - even if they have plagued you for years - because it teaches you a new way of perceiving the act of making love. It opens your mind up to new possibilities of enjoyment and exploration. It forgives you any guilt that you may feel - even if you are unaware of it - and allows you to feel good again about sex. Tantra is all about enjoying the pleasures that life has to offer. Sometimes we get wrapped up in our stressors and forget that our lives should be filled with joy and happiness. Tantric sexuality can lift you to higher planes of sexual gratification and deliver you to an entirely new realm of happiness and wisdom.